Monthly Archives: June 2011

On the Anniversary of a Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Birthday


Luca has agreed to let me take him out for lunch for his 14th birthday tomorrow. It will be the first time I’ve seen him since February, when I took him out for a Valentine’s Dinner that did not go … Continue reading

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Iron Spine Sally’s Blogger Space


Iron Spine Sally is the handle of a blogger who writes about her post-divorce transformation from an emotionally abused woman to a proud survivor. Her description of her Blogger Space, below, is an inspiring testament to the healing powers of … Continue reading

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D: The Scarlet Letter


On Sunday, another one of those you’re-divorced-so-go-ahead-and-throw-yourself-off-a-bridge articles designed to make divorcees feel like post-modern Hester Prynnes appeared on the front page of the NY Times Styles section. The piece tracked the changing perceptions of divorce from the “Ice Storm” 70s–an era when personal … Continue reading

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Christina Simon’s Blogger Space


Christina Simon is the mastermind behind Beyond the Brochure, a blog for parents applying to private elementary schools in L.A…and what life is really like at some of those schools. She also writes thoughtfully and elegantly about race, politics, motherhood, … Continue reading

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The First and Last Day I Met my Birthfather


“Feel my bicep.” This was the opening line from my birthfather, spoken on the first and last day I spent with him. My birthmother had tracked him down through a friend who had a contact at the Metropolitan Opera, where … Continue reading

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Dear Luca


Yesterday, June 12th, marked the one-year anniversary of Luca’s departure from my house. The circumstances that led to his living full-time with his dad were hellish and have been described to some small degree in earlier posts. Keeping my angry son in the house … Continue reading

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Jenny Heitz’s Blogger Space


Jenny Heitz, who spotlights uber-cool gift ideas in her smart blog Find a Toad, and opines wryly on post-modern motherhood in Mamapedia, Beyond the Brochure, and elsewhere, shares her Blogger Space below. I’m lucky enough to have an office of … Continue reading

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My Secret Confession


Now that the custody bombs have stopped exploding and I am tiptoeing gingerly through the wreckage of my life, I feel relief that Prince and I were able to reach a settlement. I didn’t trust the custody evaluator, seeing the … Continue reading

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Six Degrees Love’s Blogger Space


Jesika Jennings of Six Degrees Love shares her blogger digs in this installment of Blogger Space, a series on the places in which bloggers choose to write. Jesika blogs elegantly and seemingly effortlessly about her blended family life which includes SIX KIDS!! … Continue reading

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Take Me to the River


Last weekend I watched my 9-year-old daughter Francesca swim in the Hudson River with my mother. This would not have been a remarkable event if I had ever gone swimming with my mother as a child. Or listened to her … Continue reading

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